![]() At this point, I have no information to make any kind of determination. Maybe losing the biological parents was also for the best. I survived, and was eventually relieved, when my parents disowned me. The people I always thought were my biological parents rejected me a long time ago, so learning that a previous set of parents rejected me even earlier is having no noticeable impact on my psyche. The most common issues adopted children likely face are feelings of rejection, not fitting in, and maybe being treated differently/not accepted by extended family. Most people are probably told about their adoption when they are still children. He must have had his reasons, but what were they? If my grandfather knew, why did he never tell me? Maybe he was waiting until I was 18, but I think you should tell children long before then. I can't see too many scenarios where your child adopts a child and you never know about it. Did my grandfather know? He almost had to. He never would have been able to keep that secret when we were younger. But does he know that I was adopted? If so, did he always know? I have to doubt it. Was my brother also adopted, and does he know? I suppose if he was, he would have also been told by now. That pretty much goes against everything I know about our relationship. But if I was adopted, that means they went out and acquired me on purpose, filling out multiple government forms in the process. More curiously, why did the people I have always called my parents want to adopt me? They were never all that excited to have me around, and I always assumed I was an accident they had to live with because of their religious beliefs. Why did they give me up? There could be a million reasons, most of which I would probably understand. I have to consider the possibility that they were never planning on telling me. Call me old fashioned, but I think telling your child that she is adopted requires a sit down conversation. Maybe at some point I said, “I wish I was adopted” and they said, “You were.” I would have never taken that literally. In all those arguments, how did they never blurt out that I was adopted? Or maybe they did and I dismissed it as a heat of the moment interjection. Why did no one ever tell me? How did no one ever tell me? Maybe my parents were planning on telling me when I got older, but we had our falling out before it ever came up. The biggest shock in all of this, and the one I never would have seen coming a million miles away, was that I was adopted. I simply thought my parents sold if off after he died. I spent a lot of time there when I was younger. My grandfather's house came completely out of nowhere, but I always knew the house existed. I never knew about it, though had I ever bothered to think about it, being on my father's life insurance policy almost makes sense. In one final act of selfishness that backfired horribly against them, my parents accidentally gave me the greatest gift of all. There are no taxes, fees, or commissions, and I will never have to pay anyone to install a kitchen sink in the life insurance. When that check eventually comes in, it will be nowhere near as much as the house. Then I was told that I was still on my father's life insurance policy. I have no intention of retiring in the next thirty years, and who knows how much anything will cost in the 2050s. If my real estate agent can sell it for the asking price, I will have a nice little nest egg, at least by today's standards. I learned that my grandfather left me his house when he died in 2006. All of their paperwork saw the light of day, revealing their deepest secrets. But quite a lot happened after their accident that forced me to think about them more now than I ever did while they were alive. When they died, I thought I would think about them a little and then move on. The more years that passed, the less I thought about them. We stopped talking to each other when I was 16. When your parents die, you tend to talk about it.
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